Thursday, 4 June 2009

All Change

Have you ever had a conversation with someone that changed everything?

Have you ever had a moment when you discovered the things you had been led to believe turned out to be completely the opposite of the truth?

Have you ever had a week that has been fairly dire and included a certain amount of pain only to discover it was all for nothing?

I had one of those today... With my Boss.... Concerning the Little Princess....

Turns out I am the good, trusted, liked employee I have always strived to be. Yay! My confidence had not liked the knock of discovering, or rather, being made to think I was not. I think this was a side effect my Boss had not noticed or expected.... Just goes to show playing games can be dangerous...

What would you do if you had an employee who was lazy but had the potential to be a good employee? What would you do if you had a young, irresponsible employee who did not happen to have the best of lives outside of work? What would you do if you had an employee who was claiming to be being led astray by another employee (who is dangerously close to losing their job but happens to be permanent)? What would you do if you had an employee who claimed to be lacking in confidence due to a very capable colleague?

It seems what my Boss would do is give them all the things they want and then watch them very carefully. Give them the benefit of the doubt and wait.

My Boss went to a lot of effort today to get me alone with no chance of being overheard and without letting any of my colleagues have a hint of suspicion that there was anything to be said. My only complaint is that they waited so long. Why didn't they call me at home? Why did it not occur to them that I was hurting? Do I do such a good job of getting on with things that they couldn't see?


  1. ACK!!! Strange management seminars they must have went to.....I don't know that you can handle every employee in the same way like one person the rope to hang themselves with is one thing, torturing a more sensitive individual is entirely another...

    *shakes head*

    Hope it all will work out for the best for you...((hugs))

    And yes, I imagine you are doing a grand job of just *getting on*...isn't that what we've trained ourselves to do?

  2. It certainly puts a different perspective on things.... maybe you gave no sign of any hurt, maybe they assumed you saw what they see, maybe they assumed you knew how you were valued... assumptions are dangerous... they bypass communication... which is a 2way street... maybe you assumed how people were thinking instead of talking? (just a likkle bit)

    Hope this gives you the confidence in yourself to be able to communicate & deal with worries before they grow into something they're not ((((hugs))))

  3. Thing is by removing my support, the Little Princess' lack of desire to actually work and her conniving-ness have been allowed to shine a little more - at least to me anyway. She got told off today and I just knew that she had decided I was a snitch and she was in a vile mood for most of the day. Had absolutely nothing to do with me though....

    Thanks for your support oh lovely shiny people!